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It’s not easy being a tree!

Can YOU produce a lemon or other fruit?
I sure can’t!

PS. This post is not just about lemon trees, and not even just about trees. If someone or some thing in our life isn’t “performing” to our standards, it’s probable that extending love & support is a better response than shaming & criticism.

#decolonize

Photo of lemon tree in my yard. This tree comes under constant criticism from some people who pass by. What’s wrong with that tree, why does it only have one fruit on it, why is it taking so long to ripen, why does it not have any fruit on it (asked after I told the person I had picked the fruit — yeah, that’s how picking fruit works, the fruit is there on the tree and then it’s picked).

I made a sign:

“It’s not easy being a tree! I don’t judge you; please don’t judge me.”

And in smaller print:

“Did you know? Trees, flowers, and other plants pick up on our energy. Please let’s be loving and kind to the trees and to each other.”

In closing, a piece of advice: If you’re tempted to criticize some tree (or flower or whatever), go plant a tree or flower in your own yard. The world needs a lot more trees and flowers!

And by observing them compassionately, we can start to understand how they put their hearts into what they do, and what a gift they are.

Our bodies and minds, central nervous systems, need darkness to recharge. Humans are part of nature. We forget that sometimes and then we don’t realize why our health goes awry.

At my little urban house by the sea, which is also a noncommercial eco hostel and day retreat, I try to show how it’s possible to create a pocket of refuge even in a tiny space. A big part of that is being able to have darkness at night. Despite being surrounded by a flood of extremely aggressive bright-white street lighting.

This here is just a screenshot because TikTok videos don’t always “share pretty” across Facebook. But I’ve posted the actual video in the comments section of the Facebook post.

And here’s the original TikTok link if you’re on TikTok.

A friend asked on his page, what are our criteria for unfriending and/or blocking a person?

Since I use social media so much for work, I come into contact with a wide variety of people and prefer to keep it that way.

As some people pointed out, many people will choose to toss us in the bin, often for differences of political beliefs or other beliefs. But I rarely block or unfriend.

That’s pretty much my approach. I’ve definitely been tossed into the bin more than on occasion, and I suspect it’s often because of political differences.

I can’t say I haven’t blocked/unfriended anybody, but I rarely do. My criterion is if I’m feeling persistently abused or disliked by the person, and I’m not able to find a way to get the person to talk things out with me.

Now, as for choosing connections on Facebook, that is a pretty wide field.

It can be old friends I know in real life.

It can also be new people I meet in real life who seem cool.

But most often, it tends to be colleagues or just people who are in community activism circles and/or entrepreneurial circles, and we have information and resources to share with each other.

That makes for an extremely wide field! I am happy that I have rarely found a reason to have to unfriend or block anyone, despite it being such a wide field of personalities.

And — to look at it through a permaculture design lens, edge is where the life is.

Edge is any place where different ecosystems come together; where divergent ideas come together; where different people come together.

It’s no accident that food and other resources tend to be most abundant at the edges between forest and meadow; between land and river (or ocean); and so on.

The best ideas, too, tend to emerge from the “edges.” Even though it’s not cozy and comfortable there, it’s very fertile.

More important now than ever. If we want to address evil in the world, we have to be willing to look at our own shadow.

This recent post (December 9) from Caitlin Johnstone spoke very deeply to me.

“How To Heal When the World Is On Fire.” https://www.caitlinjohnst.one/p/how-to-heal-when-the-world-is-on

“… The thing about healing is that it leaves only an absence of something, so it doesn’t make a big deal about itself. … The more you do this though, the more the noise in your head dies down, and the real world begins to emerge. You become less reactive and less likely to inadvertently cause drama in your world, and in yourself you become generally happier and lighter. But you also see  — and this goes back to the nub of your question – that in this new light the world becomes a much less scary place. You can see that the monsters who rule our world aren’t so much monsters as just little kids with far too much power unconsciously acting out their defense mechanisms. The suffering they cause is real and horrifying, but at the root of it, they are humans playing out a very human pattern. In this context, it’s comprehensible. You’ve found similar things in yourself, so it’s not an alien threat which defies understanding. …”

On a related note, I really liked this piece by Genny Harrison on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/share/19veiwHWx2/?mibextid=WC7FNe

“When societies begin to fracture, they do not fail all at once. They fray … When we reduce complex failure to a single villain, we trade understanding for relief. …”

“When we reduce complex failure to a single villain, we trade understanding for relief.” That last sentence expresses something I’ve had on my mind for a long time.

There’s no such thing as a single villain. And we all need to be willing to look in the mirror.

A community leader in Daytona Beach, Rev. Dr. L Ronald Durham, once said something to the effect that if you are not the biggest sinner you know, you’re not looking hard enough.

Based on my own experience, that certainly is true!

Other relevant tidbits: Here’s a favorite quote of mine:

“I tell you one thing — If you want peace of mind, do not find fault with others. Rather learn to see your own faults. Learn to make the whole world your own. No one is a stranger, my child; this whole world is your own.” — Sri Sarada Devi

Best practices/programs I know of, based on my experience, for owning and integrating one’s shadow: 12-step program; and The Avatar Course.

This is a beautiful time of year in my city, there are all sorts of public events and seasonal decor everywhere. At the same time, as we pretty much all know, this can be a difficult and depressing time of year.

A while back, I joked with a fellow advocate of mental-health awareness that if I were to get a tattoo it would be a dopamine molecule. I have a lot of trouble with motivation, so maybe it would even help me stay motivated ha ha.

Well, I suddenly realized that for now I could just draw it in permanent marker!

And so I bring you …

“Trial tattoos” in Sharpie!
Mental-health awareness.

Left hand: dopamine molecule; serotonin molecule (neurotransmitters governing motivation and pleasure)

Right hand: semicolon (suicide awareness – inspired by Project Semicolon which someone i met on the street just told me about the other day)

Unplanned serendipitous bonus: ‘Tis the Santa season and my hand says HO HO HO

pics here on my DEEP GREEN facebook page

HIEROGLYPHIC STAIRWAY, poem by Drew Dellinger

What a treasure!! Just found this recording of the iconic poem, read by the poet himself!!

I first saw this poem in print, on a popular poster. (I had the poster wheat-pasted on the sidewalk-facing blackboard on the west fence of my yard for a couple years, till wind & weather wore it down.)

BTW the recording duration is under 3 minutes. Which means it fits in to the 3-minute time limit of citizen comment period at our City Commission meetings.

I had been thinking I might read this out loud at Commission, but then again instead I might attempt to write a riff, in which the first line will be “What did you do when Daytona was flooding?”

And I will say that these words of mine are inspired by a poem called Hieroglyphic Stairway by Drew Dellinger. And tell them to please check out that poem because it is truly spectacular.

Here is the YouTube link.

https://youtu.be/XW63UUthwSg?si=eURXCEXFH8AK588V

BTW you will be amazed at what you can find on YouTube. If you’re not already using it as a resource, please check it out! It’s also just a great way to play almost any song do you want to hear. (And, I have heard from some musicians that they treat musicians better than some of the other platforms do. If I hear anything else or different, I’ll update you.)

hieroglyphic stairway, drew dellinger, 2:51

Nothing like a soft rainy afternoon to encourage me to get to a really basic maintenance task that I had been meaning to get to for a while! Refreshing existing labels, and writing new labels as needed, on the plastic baggies where the different categories of cords & chargers live. (For the various cords and chargers and other bits associated with electronics, even the relatively minimal quantity of electronics we have.) The blue sharpie marker was ideal for this task.

BTW the black nylon drawstring bag is something that somehow arrived in our house / life a few years ago – I think someone was throwing it away.

A couple years ago I added the embroidery of a lightning-bolt to remind us that this is the bag where chargers & cords live. It was great actually using some of the silver metallic thread from my multigenerational stash of embroidery threads!

PS. Although the consensus among professional organizers seems to be don’t allow yourself a MISC bag (or a MISC drawer etc), I always seem to break that rule LOL. And I myself am actually a professional organizer, so if you too find yourself unable to help breaking that rule, you can have my blessing!

Photos here on my deep green Facebook page